I know I've made the right decisions. But they aren't the easy ones.
I came to a point last year, where my wants and desires were seemingly right within my grasp, and all I had to do was make it happen. I like doing things, planning things. And I had my "perfect" life "planned" out. But those plans contradicted quite a few "basic rules" in my life. "Rules" like, not lying to my parents. Not doing things behind their backs. Not giving my heart away too soon...you know...those "basic" things. I guess you could call the "rules" my values, my moral values.
Truth is...I long for someone to understand. Someone to love me for me. Someone that chose me, when he could have chosen another. I want a friend that will challenge me. One I can talk about anything with. One that will lead me.
I feel like in our culture today there are so many young women who are ready for marriage, who are mature enough for it, and who desperately want it. But there are no young men ready for it!
I am sick and tired of "mature young men" who sit on their butts, playing video games, killing zombies, in their spare time. Ya sure they may have jobs, but a job doesn't mean they know what real life is. Real life isn't wasting spare time, cuz there is nothing else to do. Real life isn't playing with giant glow sticks!!
On our way back from Florida, we stopped in Georgia. I saw mature young men there. I met them. Believe it or not, they do exist! We talked about real things. They respected their parents. They worked around the house, and had real jobs. They loved their siblings, and genuinely cared about each others day (I am guilty of the opposite).
Truth is, girls want to marry Men. Real Men. Mature Men. Men that will lead them. Men that will sweep them off their feet. Men that will work hard for them. Men that will put others before themselves.
I feel like I will never meet the perfect guy for me. One that is genuine. I start feeling sorry for myself... I know God has a plan, but it's hard to be content when I get caught up in the everyday things.
I heard a message on the radio the other night, they were talking about idols. And how even "good" things can become idols. My idol has been to find the right guy, and live "happily" ever after. It's a daily battle, even now.
Slowly but surely, bit by bit, thought by thought, I've been handing it over.
It's not an easy process, it has it's ups and downs. But I know He is faithful...
Emma*
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
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Excellent!
I am so proud of you.
Mom
Awesome!!
Now to get every young man to read this....hmmmm.......that would be eye opening for most of them.
Thanks, Emma, for sharing from your heart!
It made me laugh that you labeled your post a "lecture". It was NOT a lecture but wonderful heart felt feelings from a Godly woman. My heart is moved and gladdened by your thoughts and "rules". I remember you when you were so young. The four of you girls playing and laughing...oh..it makes my heart ache for those days again. How quickly they became the past instead of the present. God has a plan and He is working out all the details. I will pray for your future as I have for all of you girls.
My sweet Emma I am so proud of you. I know it has been hard but I am so thankful to see you grow in the Lord. Waiting is always difficult but when waiting on the Lord brings real blessings. I am thankful you have shared. It reminds me to be more faithful to pray for you. Keep trusting you will not be disappointed. Love you so much.
Yes, He IS faithful, Emma. I actually can remember back a little over 40 years when I had very similar feelings to the ones you are expressing. How easily I could have messed up my entire life! (I came SO very close.) Only looking back can I see how I was playing with disaster.
God DOES has a plan for your life. MY life. It begins with "now" and if we aren't in the plan in the "now" (walking in faith and obedience to His Word, spending time in serious prayer and fellowship with God's people NOW ), we'll be forcing our OWN plan which can never measure up to HIS. It isn't easy. It IS a daily battle. But just DO it! You'll be SO glad you did.
Listen to me rattle on and on!
Welcome to blogging, Emma, I'm visiting from your mom's blog.
This was a *wonderful* post. Sadly I've been hearing this same lament from quite a few young ladies lately.
I am going to link to this in my sidebar under the 'Worth the Read' section because I believe lots of people need to read it. :o)
This may discourage you more than encourage, but my daughter, much older than you, might have written many of these thoughts. I don't know what's happening to our culture other than that it has been under attack for a long time. One thing I do know, the Lord has someone for you IF it is His will for you to marry. Since He loves to give the desires of the heart, it seems likely. Keep looking up!
Emma, I am delighted to have been directed here (by your mom) to this post! Your thoughts are so deep, and so well-expressed.
As a mom of two married children, an 18-year-old daughter, and a 10-year-old daughter, I have a little experience in knowing what you're talking about. Oh, doesn't it look like a dearth of eligible young, mature, Godly men? Sigh... I sometimes get discouraged myself when I try to figure out (on my own!) who in the world my two youngest daughters will marry. But then I am reminded of God's faithfulness to my two older children who both found mates who are perfect for them...so I take heart!
I so admire you for turning this very vulnerable area over to the Lord's will. (Many do not.) I know that you will never be sorry!
Found this while looking for quotes and it made me think of you!
“Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.” Anonymous
Cool, eh?
He makes everything beautiful in His time.
Great post, Em! I'm encouraged by your writing, and know that there is someone special out there for you. Waiting has never been, and will never be easy. I can tell you, though, that finding a man like my husband, and your dad will be worth the wait!
Wonderful post! Please let the Lord bring the right person to you! I have to speak from personal experience that you are doing the right thing! I promise! I did NOT wait for the right person. I had a disasterous marriage.
I thought that I could influence the man for good and that he would become a Christian. I was wrong. He left me with 5 children. Precious, Godly children, but left me to raise them alone.
When God sent me my precious Roger, the Lord was the one who directed me! I encourage you to WRITE down your standards of what a future husband must be. Don't get so hung up on what he must look like, etc...those things are just not nearly as important as you might think. My Roger met each and every "necessary thing" that I wrote down. I almost got stuck on height...I am actually about an inch taller than he is...but oh my goodness, as far as Christian Character, his Walk, his Faith, HE is bigger than I am! He is my dream man and I couldn't be happier with anyone else!!
Make sure that any young man that might interest you fits those Christian characteristics FIRST!
One man I really had a crush on did NOT meet very many of those standards and the Lord showed me that very soon.
Now the Lord is doing great things in our lives!!!!
Blessings to you, dear young lady. I wrote these things from my heart...learn from my mistakes, sweetie.
Blessings,
Beth
Just came across your blog. This article sums up my feelings as a single gal perfectly. Keep waiting and praying....its so hard sometimes, though, I know.
God IS faithful as you say..
And now I'm married and have two children (one of them named Emma)
The perfect man for you is out there. And God's just waiting for the perfect time to give him to you =)
i love you emma woo and thanks for the post! i have been having a really hard time with this too and just reading it made me feel a little better. like my pastor said a few weeks ago... sometimes we need to look at singleness and not think of it as a bad thing or a stage that we need to get out of but instead of something that we need to embrace and do things that we normally wouldnt be able to do if we were dating/married. idk just something to think about. i know i have and im not planning on dating for a while unless god wants me too. :)
<3 KATIE
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